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Your Life is Yours, so Own it. Live your life like you Really Mean it. According to You, Always. It’s easy to find yourself in this society living to fulfill expectations that you never really Resolved you Actually Desired to fulfill. Don’t live to please other people, let alone society.

Sometimes it can seem ‘easier’ to go ‘according to plan’ and keep your ‘crazy ideas’ to yourself as just that. But I believe you have those Impulses, Ideas and Desires For A Reason and following your own Scary But Exciting path will be about a trillion times More Rewarding than doing what is expected of you or sticking to the original plan you agreed you would follow back Who-Knows-When.

Get Clear on Who You Want to Be and What You Want Your Life to Be Like.

What you’ve Done or who you’ve Been is not as important as Who and What You Truly Want To Be and Do. That is the Foundation that will give Shape to your Future. A lot of times we’ve been Led to Believe that We Can’t Change who we are or that we only have a Limited Amount of Options. I Don’t Believe this to be True. The Only limitations are the ones in Your Mind, determining where you’re allowed ‘to go’ both figuratively and literally speaking.

It’s hard to Realize this Fully at first , but when you Mix : Burning Desire + Faith in Oneself and Life/God + Undying Determination + Consistent and Focused Energy/Action Investment… You Can Achieve Anything You Set Your Mind To - it Does Not Matter Where You’re at right Now. The Key is to Never Give Up.

The only Obstacles between You and Who You Want To Be are Faulty Mental Programs that have been running behind the scenes in your life, keeping you in the current situation.

Ultimately, Freeing Your Mind is All that is required for your Absolute Success of any sort.

Free Your Mind from Unwanted Mental Programming. Detect + Asses + Replace Mental Programs.

Our Minds work a lot like Super Computers and we Adopt or Develop Mental Programs or Systems of Thinking in order to live our lives Coherently and Workably. It’s just how humans work.

If you have a bunch of little (and sometimes big) things going on in your life that bother you or make everything more difficult. Things you don’t fully understand or know how to deal with - It is the Result of Negative Mental Programming. And by Negative I mean It’s Just Not Working.

It’s a Process of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions that are taking place in response to a trigger thought/feeling/scenario of which you are not completely aware of. These programs are there to deal with things that arise in your life, they’re like automated responses that were programmed by influence + example + adoption through out your life. Also remember that there’s nothing inherently wrong with these established ways of thinking and operating unless You feel/think so - but you can’t really Assess that unless you make an Effort to Become Aware of the Mental Pattern behind the unpleasant situations in your life.

Create + Develop + Adopt Programs or Systems that Work For You.

Detect when this is going on - when you are reacting in an ‘automated response’ way about something, and then give it some thought, figure out when you first started Feeling that way About it and try to figure out Why you started to Feel that way About it.

Once you’ve figured it out it’ll be Easy to Decide an Option that either Works Better For You or you Like Better. This Will of coarse, Take a While and some Practice and Consistency. After all, it took a long time, practice and consistency to get those old patterns going in the first place. The More you do this, the Easier your life will get and the more desired results and outcomes you will experience.

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·Peace, Love & Stardust·

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The first step to freeing your mind is to STOP justifying who you’ve ended up becoming. To yourself, to your partner, to your friends & family, to the world.

You are who you are and you are where you are at and it is perfectly fine because regardless of the circumstances, it is ALWAYS temporary.

Circumstances are ALWAYS temporary and they are subjective to change as the way you feel and think about them changes. It is a subtle process that we are so used to being a part of that we barely realize it is going on at all.

Every time you have a new idea, or there’s a major change in your life or perspective. Do you spend a lot of time asking others what they think or how they feel about it? Do you question it yourself over and over again in your head?

I used to do that. I still catch myself doing it sometimes, but now I know how to recognize the feeling and disregard it, ignore it, distract myself with something that makes me feel better about who I have become. Who life, overtime, has caused me to be.

Allow yourself to be. Then the magic will start really happening. Stop second guessing yourself, demanding perfectly logical plans and explanations from yourself about your every ‘move’ in your life.

Let yourself flow and trust that you are capable of anything you set your mind to. Your thoughts create your limits.

Every skill that I’ve got, every ability has come as a surprise when I least expected it and most needed it, and it’s been like a gift I’ve had to explore, discover, develop.

While you’re explaining to someone, who is usually not listening, why you deserve that which you want but you don’t have and how unfair it is that you don’t have it, you are not allowing it to come into your life.

Measure your success by the joy levels you are regularly experiencing. The happier you are the more in track you are in life.

We tend to justify our successes with our struggles because we don’t really get that good things are good and they feel good and we deserve them because we are good.

We resist the evolution of our own character & life and we become critical and judgmental of ourselves in our attempt to be better, but it is that critical attitude that keeps us from getting what we want.

If you are to feel good and live the joyous life that you deserve, you have to allow yourself to keep up with the evolved version of you.

Life is constantly causing you to become new things, to become more, to expand. You experience all kinds of contrasts everyday in your life that cause you to desire new things, to define your preferences and intentions. But contrast doesn’t feel good to you unless you go in the direction of your expansion. When you resist the evolution of your life, you don’t feel fear & unwell.

It’s pretty simple : If you keep up with your own expansion you feel good. If you resist it or fight it, you feel bad.

Think about what you want and why you want it. And concentrate on that, dwell on it whenever you feel resistance or fear of who you are becoming.

Free your mind : Real freedom is knowing that you can feel good because you choose to regardless of the circumstances or situation.

The first step is to Allow Yourself To Be, To Evolve & Expand and Stop Justifying to Yourself and Others the validity of your existence, your actions, of yourself.

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·Peace, Love & Stardust·

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So you’re feeling positive and you’re doing good with your life…but somehow you still get anxious sometimes. And you deal with bouts of depression that come out of nowhere.You want to not give importance to these feelings (or maybe you do, and so do your parents/partner) but the fact is that they are there, they come and go and you have to deal with them.

This is for sure what happened to me. I used to be very depressed in my teens, I was even on medication & therapy for a while. But now I am really quite happy with my life, with myself, with my choices…but I still had to deal with occasional, seemingly random bouts of depression & anxiety. Recently, during one of those, I thought it was enough. So I did, what I always do when I decide that enough is enough, I went and did a ton of research. I read something very interesting.

Depression and Anxiety are byproducts of supressed anger.

Oh, boy. I had heard that before, but this time I actually dealt with it…

I realized maybe…I was really fucking angry. I was angry about a ton of things, so many in fact that just thinking about it overwhelmed me a lot. It made me literally dizzy.

I did what I read is helpful. Start punching pillows, or something soft and easy to punch….until it comes out . At first I thought it was silly, but man, did it come out. In fact, it’s been coming out everyday ever since.

It’s been quite revolutionary in my life, actually. But it hasn’t been an easy ride.

So, why do we suppress our feelings in the first place?

We’re raised to. We all are, for the most part. Your parents most likely were and their parents even more likely were as well. When you are a kid, you are taught not to talk back, not to defend yourself when adults punish you (even if they do so physically), you’re even forced not to express your anger towards them after such treatment. When you are a kid and you are mad at another kid, instead of teaching you how to express you anger in a healthy way, they scold or ground you for expressing it at all.

Depending on how severely punished you were for expressing your anger it might be more or less difficult for you to express it.

But the fact that we are raised to be that way, means that most adults are acting this way between each other.

It doesn’t feel good to suppress our anger. When we do, we feel depressed and anxious.

Anger isn’t really bad in the first place. It is a coping mechanism. When something happens to you that threatens your life, your mental stability, your wellbeing. It is normal and healthy for you to feel angry and that you would stand up for yourself and do something about the situation. It’s helping you survive and protect yourself. We’ve just domesticated ourselves and each other to believe that, somehow, that’s not acceptable behavior.

What happens also is that when we suppress it, the anger becomes a whole new problem for you to cope with. It’s how we make problems complex and difficult to solve. We lose track of where they really started.

So once you’ve decided that you want to stop suppressing your anger, you want to express it when you feel it and then let it go, you might find that things get a little difficult.

You start flipping out on people. And then you feel really guilty afterwards. You start to feel lost.

This happens to so many people because, again, most of us have learned to only express our anger in very mean, destructive ways. We’ve watched plenty of people let their anger bottle up until they finally exploded.

It’s important for us to not get lost in the feelings and identify with them. You are feeling really fucking angry. Possibly even furious. Now might not be the best time to talk to that person you are so furious with. Now might be the best time for you to go somewhere where it’s safe for you to scream, or punch a pillow or something.

A lot of people use exercise as a coping mechanism for anger. It works MUCH better than depression & anxiety

The interesting thing about anger too is that it doesn’t even last that long. Once you allow yourself to fully feel your feelings, you feel better and they are gone. You don’t have to dwell on them. You just need to get things off your chest.

Another way in which people cope with anger is expressing it to someone else or by just complaining, instead of expressing it directly to the person they are having an issue with . For example, spouses often express their anger towards each other to other people, instead of each other. They’ll talk to their kids, friends, siblings, family members, co-workers…

but if you want to have a different kind of relationship with your partner, friends, family members…

If you want things to always be clear and good between you, whatever your relationship. If you want all the cards to be on the table. You need to find a way to express anger that works for you, and talk to them about it, tell them how you feel, do something about whatever it is that made you feel angry. Without getting mean or destructive, once you have gotten that original rage out of your chest.

It could eventually become something really helpful, if you learn to deal with it in a way that works for you. It could help you learn about yourself, about the people in your life that are important to you, and better your quality of life in general.

In any case, you will feel much better.

·Peace, Love & Stardust·

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