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There comes a time in your life when your opinions and/or beliefs are no longer more important than that you feel good.

Life is supposed to feel good on every level and we all know it deep down.

Many times we discard this option because we believe it to be impossible, or rather, our set of beliefs rule it out as impossible.

The turning point comes when you realize your own views, opinions, perspectives or beliefs about the world and life rule you out as impossible.

So many of us spend our lives driven by a desire to be someone we’re not, someone that only exists in our heads as some ideal version of us. We spend our adult lives domesticating ourselves into behaving and being who we have come to believe we should be. Or maybe, who we think we can get away with being.

There is a wider world of opportunities in there than we are willing to recognize. We are free because we can choose the thoughts that we pay attention to, we can control what we focus on.

It can be easy to change your perspective so it serves you. Like most things in life it’s more a matter of practice than anything else. Life can start looking brighter and opportunities can sprout for you everywhere and you can be happy to be you.

Just try to notice how you perceive the world to be, the things you usually consider “obvious” , “givens” ,”rules of thumb”, or “common sense” are the ones you want to pay the most attention to. Any thought that makes you react with a “that’s just how things are whether I like it or not” feeling.

Notice how these thoughts, these beliefs affect the way you feel about yourself, your life, your surroundings, opportunities….

If you realize that the way that you’ve been looking at things, the chances for you to be truly happy, fulfilled & joyus are very slim, or almost a joke then changing your life perspective could have ASTRONOMICAL effects on your life.

How do you do that?

How do you change your perspective on anything?

How do you change a belief or thought pattern?

Well it isn’t something you can do in a single action. It’s a process. But a simple one at that.

1.

Identify the belief , the pattern of thought that is at the core of this perspective or view.

(Ex:You feel like you will never be able to do work that fulfills you in every way.Belief: Work isn’t for your enjoyment. You work hard to earn a good living.)

2.

Rephrase it in a way that feels better to you, more relieving. Also make sure it is a positive statement.

(Ex: There must be a way I can earn a good living while enjoying myself and having a good time)

3.

Decide that every time you become aware that the old pattern of thought is taking place, you will rephrase it, if possible out loud and several times, until this new pattern of thought becomes more normal and natural than the old one.

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Take into consideration that depending on what kind of emotional change comes with that belief a more relieving perspective might be an angry or frustrated one.

If you’ve been looking at something from a numb, depressed, hopeless perspective… looking at it from a perspective of anger or frustration might feel much better to you. And realistically, if that’s how you’ve been feeling, you can’t expect yourself to feel happy, positive and appreciative right away.

Again, remember it is a process.

The secret is to not settle for the comfort of that feeling once it starts to feel limiting or not so good to you again. The secret is to keep reaching for better and more relieving ways of looking at things in your life until everything about you (your opinions, views & beliefs) is supporting the creation of your best life for you, day by day, thought by thought.

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·Love, Peace & Stardust·

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The other day while I was doing some chore , I was thinking about compliments and I realized that I compliment people on a regular basis, quite a bit. Which got me asking myself why…

The first conclusion that I came to, is that my complimenting isn’t really an outward action. Meaning, it’s not something I do for others as much as I do it for myself.

When I was a week shy from 19, I got my first tattoo, as a commitment to myself to be happy.

Happiness is a state of being, and it is a conscious choice that you make all day everyday.

This commitment required me to investigate and dwell on those things that made me happy about life, to counteract all the things that well, didn’t.

Every time I look at my tattoo, I think about who I was when I got it, and who I had been vs. who I am now.

The difference is that now , I do what it takes for me to be happy. And that means I focus on all the things, small or big, epic or insignificant, dorky or awesome, that make me smile, giddy, giggle, warm & fuzzy, slightly happy or just ecstatic with joy.

And that, a lot of the time translates into me complimenting your hair, because it makes me so happy to see your hair beautifully blowing in the wind with the light shining on it and bringing out all kinds of wonderful otherwise-invisible colors ! And I tell you and the way you smile and blush a little , really warms my heart and makes me feel even happier!

That’s why I compliment so much, and that’s why you should too!

I know a lot of people who used to be on the ·Frequent·Complimenters·Club· that shied away from it after “bad experiences”.

Usually these bad experiences consist on them not feeling reciprocated in their attitude, comments, and gestures of love and complementation towards others.

If you surround yourself with the same circles of people for years and you realize one day that no one ever seems to point out (or even notice) anything nice about anybody else except you, you can easily develop feelings of resentment and feel like you’re (insert favorite insult) for ever complimenting anybody or being nice at all.

Or …

you could realize, that by complimenting people that are rarely ever complimented, and who rarely compliment others you are almost guaranteed to inspire some kind of reaction within them when and if you do.

You might make them feel very good, and put them in a good mood the whole rest of the day. Or you could make them question what’s up with you & your intentions behind your compliment. Which sooner or later will lead them to realize that you were just acknowledging something delicious about them that day…

and might make them look at humanity in general with different eyes, question whether they’ve got everyone figured out or not.

Any way you look at it., complimenting is a wonderful way of celebrating anything or anyone you encounter in your way who helps you feel happy and joyful to be in this world & to be able to enjoy little or big things along your way.

On the more metaphysical side of things, since we’re all energetic magnets, when we acknowledge and focus on positive things or things that makes us feel good, we inevitably “attract” more things that makes us feel good and that we consider positive.

Something called your RAS or Reticular Activating System plays a big role in all of this. They are a group of cells at the base of your brain stem which help us by filtering the important things from the unimportant so that we can function.

But it does it, based on your beliefs, which are your predominant thoughts or impressions about life and what happens to you.

So your RAS help you see around you more of what you’re thinking about or focusing on. It makes you aware of things that might have been there all along that are perfect opportunities, treats or sources of joy for you and you just “couldn’t” see before, because your senses were already overwhelmed assimilating those more negative or dull things you were focusing on more before.

Your RAS can make things easier for you like when you find yourself in a crowded place and you can barely hear what the person next to you is saying, but the moment someone yells your name-even if they’re far away- you ears immediately pick it up.

Or it can make it more difficult like if you are constantly thinking & talking about how so-and-so never treats you well enough(even if it might be so), then your RAS will help you see more evidence of that being true as well.

So it’s really up to each of us to decide what we focus on, what we think and talk about, what we make “important” for our RAS so it shows us more of it everywhere we go.

So go out & compliment somebody, or stay in and compliment yourself!

Just give it a try, see what happens when you acknowledge out loud whenever you see or come in contact with something or someone you love!

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·Love, Peace & Stardust·