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The Most Important Relationship of your Life and the One you Must Care and Dedicate Yourself Most to is Your Relationship with Your Self. With You. You Must Love and Adore Yourself.

 

It’s OK if you aren’t Quite There Yet - or if you Sometimes Are, sometimes Aren’t. That is Often My Case. But it Is Important that You Decide that That Is Where You Are Moving Towards. That is How You Want To Feel About Yourself.

 

You Must First Want To Love and Adore Yourself. Then You need To Try Every Day, Every Time You Remember or Every Time you catch yourself Not loving yourself.

 

Don’t Beat Yourself Up About it! Turn it Around, into a Joke or some sort of Giggles. Make a Habit of Looking for Reasons To Love & Adore Yourself. Dwell in Those Moments When You Find Yourself In Love with Yourself or Your Life.

 

Notice the Difference in Your Life between when you Choose to be OK with You No Matter What and when you Let Yourself look for reasons to criticize yourself. Life Is So Much Better When You Choose to Make a Habit of Loving and Appreciating Yourself.

 

You Will Never Please Everybody but if you Make it Your Business You Can Most Definitely Please Yourself. So Please Yourself First. Always.

 

That Doesn’t mean you have to be a Butthole to Anybody. That Doesn’t Mean you have to be Inconsiderate or Rude. You will be Surprised at How Easy it is to get Your Way and make it a Pleasure for Everyone Involved.

 

After all, now that You have Decided to Love and Adore Yourself Unconditionally it is Important to Act in a Way that would be motive of your own Admiration.

 

Often we are afraid that Pleasing Ourselves will mean Fucking Over Everyone Else. It is a Huge Liberation to Realize this is Not true, but you Can Only Find Out One Way. Try it, Live it.

 

You Only Have Your Perspective. That’s All Any of Us Ever Has. we are Selfish Beings by Nature, we can Only See Through Our Own Eyes. It’s All Good, there’s nothing wrong about it, it’s just The Way It Is. There’s A Reason for it: You are Here to Live for You.

 

You Always Know What You Need, you could say you are Designed To. even when You Don’t Think you do. Sometimes you just need to Take a Step Back. Look at your Life from a Distance. Look at Yourself from the Third Person Perspective. Look at Your Life as a Story. Figure Out What It Is Telling You. You Can Always Figure it Out. Only You Can Know. Your Life and Experience are Speaking to You. and They are Only For You to Figure Out. Listen to Others but Don’t Ever Forget That.

 

You Are the Center and Creator of Your Life. You are The Reason behind It.The Truth is that In Your Life Everything Does Really Revolve Around You, and if It Feels like It Doesn’t - It’s Time You Do Some Catching Up With Yourself. You Have a Life To Live for Yourself! There is Always Responsabilities but they are Not the Reason you Feel the Focus Isn’t On You. After All, You are in Control of the Focus. You are the Focus.

 

Whatever is Going On in Your Life Realize It is All about You. Sometimes we Think it is Easier to Make it About Other People. About Other Things. It is just a way of Distracting Yourself from what is Really Going On. What is Always Going On is You and how You Feel About Yourself and Your Life. Allowing Yourself the Time and Space to See these things will Open Your Eyes Up to New Solutions, to Better Feelings and a Happier You.

 

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·Peace, Love & Stardust·

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We are all special, in the sense that we all have our own unique consciousness, our own perspective, our own dreams, ideas, desires.

The biggest part of you is the one that you probably never talk about and the one you couldn’t really explain. It’s the big you, the inner true you, your soul.

You have feelings and they are you guidance. They tell you whether or not your focus is upon things that are what you really want to be focusing on.

See, the big part of you knows what you’ve been experiencing, what you’ve been thinking, what you’ve been wanting in your life,what you need to do, where you need to go…

There is some traditions that encourage you to eradicate desire.

I say desire is the most essential part of our being.

We live through our experiences and out of every experience are born one or thousands of desires. We desire more or less of this and that, we desire that the next time we have an experience like this it’d be more like this or that…we arrive to new conclusions, new preferences. This mechanism is always working in your life, always determining your new preferences and desires.

You can always trust yourself to know what is good for you.

Only…no one tells you so.

The people that care about you: parents, teachers, partners, friends… are for the most part well-meaning people and want the best for you. But what they consider to be ‘the best for you’ has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with what they would be pleased to see you doing.

When most people tell you what to do and why, they’re more interested in your looking for ways to please them than in your looking for ways to please yourself.

That’s how in their trying to be social most people lose themselves and their true passions, they simply feel persuaded or obligated to ignore their own guidance.

These people usually end up basing their motivations on the attention that is directed at them by other people.

Sometimes it feels really difficult to follow your own guidance in this society, especially as a young person, everyone seems to think they know what is best for you, and you have no idea.

The thing to keep in mind is that most people are only talking from their own position of having shut down their own guidance system.

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Sometimes out of respect or the kind of relationship we have with certain people, we allow ourselves to consider and focus our attention on the things they tell us that oppose our goals, dreams and desires.This never helps you or brings you anywhere because it always makes you feel internal discord, which will actually make it more difficult for you to achieve what you want.

There will always be others that disagree with what you are doing or want to do, but when you pay attention to them then you are the one that is disagreeing with your own goals, dreams and desires.

The only way to really gauge the appropiateness or possibility of your desires, dreams or behaviors is to listen to your own guidance system: your emotions.

Pay attention to your feelings and follow what makes you feel good, alive, in tune, in alignment, happy and joyful, because that is who you really are.

There is no reason why your life should go any way but the way you dream it to go.

Sure there will be tons of things that happen to you along the way that will seem like you neither planned nor wanted, but the truth is that we all end up living what we think we’re going to anyway, so it’s just a matter of you really getting it, learning to use and live with this knowledge and doing it purposefully.

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See, when you don’t feel the calling to do something, then you look at it and consider it from a whole different perspective than the person that feels a passionate and compelling pull to do that same thing.

That’s why when you go up to your parents and tell them about your dreams to be a dog psychologist in Australia they can’t help but feel a bit queasy and tell you all the reasons why it wouldn’t be the right thing for you to do, because from their passionless perspective they just can’t see all the pros of the situation and how they would outweigh the cons for you.

In the end, a lot of times, people that really care about us end up taking a position of passionately opposing our desires, which makes it even more difficult for them to see how it would be a good option for you.

That’s why you ultimately shouldn’t listen to anybody but yourself when it comes to making decisions in your life.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s very important to do a lot of research, to inform yourself about your decisions, so you know what you are getting yourself into but it is a different matter to let yourself be advised about the actual outcome of the situation in a way that you are being told what is right or wrong for you to do.

No one knows what is like to be you, no one is in your head and no one has lived your experiences so no one knows what’s best for you but you.

Remember this applies to other people too. That means, take into consideration that you can easily become ‘the Others’ in this situation.

We’re all part of that big ‘They’ just someone else’s.

That’s why whenever someone asks me for advice on any given topic I always end up talking to them about bigger or more general things that their specific choice or decision, I talk to them about how they have guidance that can help them much better than me.

You are truly your best friend, in every way, if you just got to know yourself better, you’d realize it right away.

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·Peace, Love & Stardust·